If you don’t think Alex Day has noticed that he might benefit from the contrast between his accusations and the accusations against Sam Pepper (which are more physically violent and specific in nature) then you’re being naive. Alex Day is a smart and observant guy. It was a deliberate and opportunistic choice to return to YouTube at this moment.
Notice how he emphasizes the lack of physical force during his incidents of coercion. Notice how he carefully selected which accounts he would address. Notice how he casts himself as the victim of a vitriolic tumblr community.
The video may have been unscripted and spontaneous, but he’s clearly been formulating and carefully constructing this response for a long time.
this is the most succinct issue I have with Alex’s new video (which I have not watched and encourage you not to watch due to its monetisation and instead read a transcript, which you can find here) other than the fact that it, like, exists.
I don’t have much to add because I’m just so tired and sad (though probably not half as much as plenty of other people), but I’ll say that if you’ve found yourself swaying gently back to his side after seeing the video; firstly, that’s not your fault. He is very good at this. Thinking back there have been a few ridiculous things I let slide in the past (not abuse stuff, other than maybe his treatment of Kristina and Becky; other shit like the cosplay incident) because of how well he explained his counter argument. He is very well-practised and it is one of the reasons his allegations are the highest in number.
Secondly, this stuff:
- You do not know us. You know what we show you; which yes, sometimes is more raw, or unedited, or badly lit, but it is still a very controlled window into our lives. Many people, including other members of the community, get to see beyond this. It’s up to you to accept that their character reference is 100% more accurate than the one you’ve built up from videos, tweets and even meet-ups.
- As public internet-savvy figures, we know stats and SEO, we know how to tentpole on current trends, and we know how to turn a recent situation to our favour. Alex especially. He has seen his way to worm back in by further demonising others whose behaviour can be made example of in comparison (note how he uses “Eddplant” instead of Ed’s name, to formalise and distance himself from someone he’s recently been supporting from the sidelines).
Lastly, and most importantly, it is not your place to forgive. It’s not my place, it’s not the Green brothers’ place, it is not Google’s CEO’s place. There are a small number of people who were directly affected by Alex’s actions and may be dealing with that for a long time; unless you’re one of them, you are not qualified to welcome him back. Think about how easy it is to prattle on about how “everyone makes mistakes” when you were not on the receiving end of that mistake.
Okay turns out I had a lot to add. I think I’m going to be reblogging other people’s thoughts on this for the most part, because I have a lot going on outside the internet world and other people are much better at articulating this than me.